The
Unspoken
Word
Regrets, in a way, it is considered as an issue that most of us deny confronting with or talk about.
Therefore, it appears to be a word that was unspoken it is the stories which never been told.
Unspoken words are usually the most important as they are the hidden secrets
or the truth it is a key to explore people’s mind through their decisions and consequences that come with it.
Regret can describe not only the aversion for an action that has been committed but also, the regret of inaction that is a people’s wish to do something in the past.
Exploring people’s life lesson through their sincere confession
is a trigger of memory which leads to what deeply lies beneath
inside us than what we present ourselves to the world.
Hopefully, a number of honest regrets convey by the contributors in this show, can give a hopeful message to those who drowned in blue.
This exhibition brings sixteen regretful stories from both perspectives of actions
of ordinary people pairing with everyday life object
(in a photograph format) owned by them as a witness of regret matter reveal to the public sight for the first time
to create a space of extraordinary remembrance, discovery and examination of us, the humans of today
The Unspoken word has been spoken,
Are you ready to witness the secrets?
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Can you hear the clock singing?
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Time is passing you by
it goes through you.
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Just one breath you inhale, you paid time your life
how long do you have left now?
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What is the most regretful action you have in life?
Which of your belonging object describes most
of that particular regret the best?
We might never ask ourselves these questions before.
We usually get busy living life, so busy that we forget to appreciate little things we achieved or received.
Too busy to rewind to our past and talk to our old self
'What do we leave behind?'
'Did I do enough for this life?'
'Am I ready to leave this world if suddenly death chooses me today?'
'Do I feel regret doing anything?'
'Will I have something I would feel regret if I don't do it?'
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Take your time right at this moment to think about who or what is important to you.
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Any regrets?
I always wanted to learn to play a musical instrument
but never had enough time to do it. I miss the time in my childhood when you don’t have to worry about any responsibilities,
when I was four years old I made a hand-made kite on my own.
The first time I fly it into the sky, it was a moment that I can prove to myself and my family that I can accomplish a project.
That was an essential part of my later career options that I chose to become an engineer so that I can accomplish things.
S. J, 55, Engineer
I hated my father, he died for 20 years now, and I often tell people that I do not love him. I blame everything, every struggle in my family on his death.
However, when the time passes, I woke up and know that it’s not his fault.
If I could, I want to say sorry to him and give him a big hug.
When I was young I have this tiny Pucca doll which I love so bad, one day it got stolen by my classmate, Although later I replaced with a new one it’s not the same.
I love both, my father and the doll but I can’t treasure both that long I felt that it is the same feeling of love that I wanted to keep it but I can’t.
If the colour of love is pink, my pink would be the darkest shade of pink.
I. R, 24, Kindergarten teacher
I never told my grandfather that deep down I wanted to be an artist (I think he always wanted to hear it)
because I fear that I might not able to fulfil my oath.
However, now he already passed away I can only tell him in my mind.
Whenever I draw something, it can project a deep and profound feeling better than any words.
D. P, 24, Artist and Traveller
I felt despondent with one issue in my life
but I can understand why it happened
and something is beyond our ability to do anything to stop it.
When I look at my childhood table that my father and I help assembled it together, I sense the feelings of warmth,
but at the same time, there are
so much pain and loss.
There is an ice cube in my heart; I feel cold and numb.
My feelings for this table has changed,
and I can’t look at it or use it like the same way I did before.
N. T, 21, Student
I had a chance to exhibit my Artwork in National Art Exhibition in Bangkok, but on the exhibition opening day, my father got ill and sent to the hospital.
We didn’t have a chance to celebrate this success together, a few days later he passed away.
Before he died, he gave me a 100 Baht banknote, Although this is just money this sheet of paper turned into the most valuable object that reminds me of him after that moment on.
In my father’s word; ‘In this world, there is no one who would take care of you anymore.
Although you might struggle in life, from now on you need to fight for yourself’
S. S, 21, Art Student
I saw my husband for the first time
before we get married on the aisle.
I was wearing this scent on the day we got married
(I am a Muslim)
N. A, 28, Postgraduate Student
I feel regret of my life after retirement.
I want to do something meaningful not just spending time alone in my house waiting for a day to pass by.
I hope whatever may come tomorrow will be better than today.
N. K, 60, Retired employee
Regret not to defend myself to someone who was misunderstood by my actions.
At the time I felt that she would not listen to me no matter how, so I give up on defending myself.
I believe that when the time passed everything might be able to solve itself, but it didn’t.
Since I was very young, I have a lucky charm which is a Furby doll.
I always carry it around believing it’s my lucky charm.
Whenever there is an examination I would bring it with me in the exam room and when the teacher found it in my pocket she would laugh, I still keep it with me.
J. S, 25, Freelance artist
I should not have gone back together with my first girlfriend time and again, but broken up with her earlier than I did instead to free us both from the unhealthy, harmful, depressing, mutually destructive 14-year relationship back then.
Despite the strong passion we shared, it was an emotional tug of war.
I regret making her unable to promise to her mother's last words soon enough, which was to leave me because of my gender.
She wrote a letter after I broke up with her, which has never reached my mother as the intended recipient.
In the 4-page letter, she expressed blame over my family education for my irresponsibility, even though as respectful as she could try to sound.
Even this has passed for a long time
I still need to live with it for the rest of my life.
C. L, 32, Film archive curator
I regret not to let any decent man walk into my life.
Now I live alone with my dog, a chubby female Labrador.
She is now 12 years old. She is my true friend,
but I still hope maybe one day the fate will be on my side and send me someone.
A. S, 59, anonymous Department of Science Director
Exposing myself on a webcam to strange men,
I was under the age of 16 at the time
but got an adrenaline kick out of it and wanted the confidence and approval of strangers.
From that moment on I can’t look at a penis,
I hate looking at them now;
I’m not a lesbian I just hate looking at other penis and hate the thought of them.
I was naive, and I would change the situation it if I could
L. D, 25, Art Teacher
I didn’t have a chance to tell my mother I love her before she died,
her death was so sudden that it stopped my world from going around.
There are sorrow, longing, and happiness all at the same time.
I am sad because I lose her but on the other hand, I am happy that she is free from the pain.
I want to have her by my side so that I would feel that she never really left me.
That’s why I got a tattoo with her name on my chest, to remind me she will stay with me until the last day of my life.
S. P, 25, Web content editor
I miscarried my first child because of my health issue.
My husband drove me to the hospital that night
although this happened a really long time ago,
every minute of it still lingers so clearly in my mind.
P. T, 53, Housewife
My regret is a relationship that was sour, and I did not jump soon enough.
Being in a particular relationship,
often you can get misled in decisions, and you do not stop and think about the consequences of certain actions.
Although I've accepted the situation and moved on.
Whenever I see this umbrella it reminds me of him
F. N, 23, Illustrator
Once, I got into a big fight with my older brother and it hurt him in both mental and physical way.
I regret of my action because my brother is Autistic.
B. T, 49, Navy
